If your child could really speak

IF your child could speak
For all the frustrated parents, I know your pain. My 20-year-old was once 3-years-old. I’ve also worked with hundreds of children over the past 20 years here in Japan. (mostly 3 to 10-years-old). I’ve been frustrated many times. Please be patient. It gets better. The little ones don’t stay small forever. Let’s look for a moment through the eyes of a little one. If they could speak articulately and fluently, they may say something like the following… Mommy, please don’t be mad at me. I really have no idea what I am doing. I have no sense of time. One


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Tell me the answer Mommy!

demanding child
Recently I had a six-year-old come for a trial lesson and noticed when it came to writing his name, he looked at his mother for the answers. When the answers did not come from her, he kept asking. Mom says he always does this. What’s going on here? Is he afraid of making a mistake? Does he not trust in his own abilities? Is there some over-depending on mom happening? A combination of all the above? In the 20+ years of working with Japanese children, I’ve seen this pattern many times. It’s normal and children out grow it over time.


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