It’s 9 p.m. and Tomoki is in tears because the homework is still not done. Mom is furious because she has no idea why her son still has not finished his homework. If you were to talk with mom, she may say something like the following. “This is ridiculous! I’ve worked hard all day long cleaning, cooking, taking my kids to their classes, etc. I’m stressed out and very tired. I’m also not looking forward to doing the same thing all over again tomorrow. It’s endless! Just the thought of doing this one more day puts my stomach in knots.
For all the frustrated parents, I know your pain. My 20-year-old was once 3-years-old. I’ve also worked with hundreds of children over the past 20 years here in Japan. (mostly 3 to 10-years-old). I’ve been frustrated many times. Please be patient. It gets better. The little ones don’t stay small forever. Let’s look for a moment through the eyes of a little one. If they could speak articulately and fluently, they may say something like the following… Mommy, please don’t be mad at me. I really have no idea what I am doing. I have no sense of time. One